Stephen Bickle — Marriage & Relationship Coaching | Santa Monica & Online
Marriage & Relationship Coaching

You're tired.

Tired of the same fight, no matter how many times you try to resolve it.

Tired of waiting for things to get better on their own.

Tired of lying in bed next to someone you love — and feeling completely alone.

Most couples don't fall out of love. They get buried — under resentment, under silence, under years of not being truly heard.

I help you find your way back.
Not to what it was. To something real.

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Stephen Bickle — Relationship Coach, Santa Monica
Couples Coaching Specialist
Santa Monica & Online
36 Years in a Real Marriage
Results Faster Than Traditional Counseling
Faster Than Traditional CounselingNo year-long waitlists. No endless intake. Real work from the very first session.
Coaching, Not TherapyForward-focused and action-oriented. We work on your marriage — not just your feelings about it.
No Sides. No Judgment.I work with both of you, for both of you. The relationship is the client — not either partner.
You're Not Alone

Does Any of This Sound Familiar?

These aren't signs your marriage is over. They're signs it's asking for attention.

  • You feel more like roommates than partners — sharing a home but not a life

  • The same fights keep happening, no matter how many times you try to resolve them

  • One of you has stopped bringing things up because it never goes anywhere

  • You love each other but you're not sure if you're still in love

  • One partner is reaching out, trying — and the other has pulled away

  • You've tried talking about it but can't seem to have the real conversation

Stephen Bickle
36Years Together
My Story

I'm Not Teaching Theory. I've Lived This.

My wife and I have been together for 36 years. There was a point where we had become strangers who shared a house. I was doing everything I knew how to do and still losing her. Slowly, quietly, and then all at once.

When we finally hit the wall, I had a choice — walk away or do the hardest work of my life. I joined a men's team. I learned what emotional safety actually means. I learned how to show up differently — not better, differently.

What we built on the other side isn't a fairy tale. It's real. It's deep. It's a kind of connection I didn't know was possible after 36 years together. That's what I teach couples now. Not how to pretend. How to build something real.

How We Work Together

Three Programs. One Direction. Forward.

Each program is built around intensive half-day sessions — more done in one afternoon than most couples accomplish in a month of weekly appointments.

Step 1The Jumpstart1 Half-Day · $500
Step 2The Reset2 Half-Days · $1,000
Step 3Fall Back in Love12 Weeks · $3,000
Half-Day Intensive

The Jumpstart

Equal to 1 month of weekly sessions

One focused afternoon that breaks through months of gridlock. Two 90-minute blocks of deep work — more progress than most couples make in four weeks of hourly appointments.

  • 2 × 90-minute coaching blocks (15-min break between)
  • Both partners work through core resentments using the REUNITE method
  • Clear the emotional backlog blocking real connection
  • Leave with a written Repair Roadmap — your shared plan forward
  • 1 week of direct email access to Stephen after the session
Included Today
  • Healing Resentments WorkbookPre-session prep that accelerates your first half-day
  • Full credit toward The Reset or Fall Back in Love
$500— single half-day
Are you tired enough to finally do something about it?
2 Half-Days · 2 Weeks

The Reset

Equal to 2 months of weekly sessions

For couples in active pain who need real relief. Two intensive half-days — two weeks apart — so what you uncover has space to actually take root.

  • Half-Day 1: Map and begin clearing accumulated resentments
  • Tools and homework to use in the 2 weeks between sessions
  • Half-Day 2: Go deeper — the real fight beneath the surface fight
  • 2 weeks of direct email access to Stephen
  • Shared Repair Roadmap document after each half-day
  • Full $1,000 credit toward Fall Back in Love
Included Today
  • Healing Resentments WorkbookChanges how you show up on Day 1
  • From Roommates to Teammates WorkbookThe bridge from disconnected to working together
  • Full $1,000 credit toward Fall Back in Love
$1,000— full program
Two weeks from now, this could feel completely different.
À La Carte

Single Session

Not ready for a program yet? A single 45-minute session is a solid way to get unstuck, tackle one specific issue, or get a feel for this work before committing to a full program.

Not sure which program is right for you? That's what the free 30-minute Marriage Reality Check is for. We'll look at where you are, what's driving it, and what it would take to change — then find the right path together.

What Clients Say

Real Couples. Real Results.

Stephen helped us break a 10-year cycle of resentment. We had the same fight for a decade and couldn't see it. After two weeks with Stephen, our home feels calm again.
— M & J, Santa Monica
I felt safe and seen in every session. We had conversations we had been avoiding for years. I didn't think my husband would open up like that. He did.
— Sarah, Los Angeles
As a man, I appreciated that Stephen never took sides. He helped me understand what my wife actually needed — and how to show up for her in a way that finally worked.
— Daniel, Online Client
Ready to Begin

The Conversation That Could Change Everything

If you're still reading, some part of you already knows it's time.

A free 30-minute Marriage Reality Check where we look honestly at what's happening in your relationship, what's driving it, and what it would take to change. No pressure, no pitch — just a real conversation.

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The Jumpstart

You've had the same fight so many times you can predict every word.

You've been waiting for things to improve on their own. They haven't.

You still love each other — but something between you has gone quiet.

One afternoon changes everything. Two 90-minute blocks of real, guided work — more progress than most couples make in a full month of weekly sessions.
What's included
  • 2 × 90-minute coaching blocks with a 15-minute break
  • Both partners work through resentments using the REUNITE method
  • Clear the emotional backlog that's been blocking real connection
  • Leave with a written Repair Roadmap — your shared plan forward
  • 1 week of direct email access to Stephen after the session
Included when you book today
  • Healing Resentments Workbook — pre-session prep that accelerates your first half-day
  • Full credit toward The Reset or Fall Back in Love
$500— single half-day session

Are you tired enough to finally do something about it? One afternoon. That's all it takes to start.

Yes — I'm Ready to Start  
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2 Half-Days · 2 Weeks · $1,000
The Reset

You're not just stuck. You're exhausted. Starting to wonder if this is just… how it is now.

There's a version of your relationship you remember. You want that back — or something better.

You've tried talking. You've tried waiting. Nothing has moved. Until now.

Two intensive half-days — two weeks apart — gives you the depth of real breakthrough work plus the space for what you've uncovered to actually take root.
What's included
  • Half-Day 1: Map and begin clearing the accumulated resentments
  • Tools and homework to use in the 2 weeks between sessions
  • Half-Day 2: Go deeper — the real fight beneath the surface fight
  • 2 weeks of direct email access to Stephen between and after sessions
  • Shared Repair Roadmap document after each half-day
  • Full $1,000 credit applied toward Fall Back in Love
Included when you book today
  • Healing Resentments Workbook — changes how you show up on Day 1
  • From Roommates to Teammates Workbook — the bridge from disconnected to working together
  • Full $1,000 credit applied toward Fall Back in Love
$1,000— full 2-session program

Two weeks from now, this could feel completely different. Are you tired enough to stop waiting?

I'm Ready — Let's Reset  
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12-Week Transformation · $3,000
Fall Back in Love

You don't just want to stop fighting. You want to actually fall back in love.

You want to feel chosen again. Known again. To have the marriage you thought you were building.

That's not naive. That's exactly what this program exists to create.

Twelve weeks. One 90-minute session every week. Three phases that take you from clearing the wreckage to building something real — not just better. Different. The kind of connection you didn't think was possible after everything you've been through.
What's included
  • 12 × 90-minute weekly sessions — momentum every single week
  • Weeks 1–4: Heal the resentments, clear the foundation
  • Weeks 5–8: Build a shared vision — who do you want to be together?
  • Weeks 9–12: Rebuild intimacy, closeness & tools that last a lifetime
  • Unlimited direct access to Stephen between every session
  • Full credit applied if coming from The Reset
Included when you enroll today
  • Healing Resentments Workbook — the foundation before you begin
  • From Roommates to Teammates Workbook — rebuild the partnership
  • From Invisible to Valued Workbook — rediscover what it feels like to be truly seen
  • Flexible payment: $1,000/month × 3
$3,000or $1,000/mo × 3

Are you ready to feel different — not just less bad, but actually good? This is how you fall back in love.

Yes — I Want to Fall Back in Love  
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